If you’ve been living under a rock and haven’t heard of KonMari, which I hadn’t until very recently, I’ll explain..
The KonMari method is the ‘life-changing method of tidying up’ by ‘decluttering queen’ Marie Kondo. Her theory is that it’s not enough to simply tidy things away, that only creates the illusion that your space is tidy. It’s about clearing out, no excuses, tidying up once and never again, leaving yourself surrounded by only things that spark joy.
Admittedly when I first heard of KonMari, I wasn’t interested whatsoever. I’m not bothered about decluttering, I was fine shoving everything in cupboards and forcing the doors closed. But actually, I realised it was making me far from happy. I was constantly stressed, searching for new storage solutions, ‘tidying’ things away wherever I could find a home for them. The house is usually the main cause of my stress and I was sick of barking at P about needing to move house because there’s just nowhere to keep all our stuff!
Her key principles are:
Tidy all at once. By this it means allowing yourself about 6 months for the entire process. Doing it bit by bit just drags it out and no one’s got time for that.
Visualise your destination. Where do you want to be at the end of your KM journey? I don’t want to trip over my floordrobe every time I walk into my room but that’s not really what she means. Be specific, my destination is that I want to make the most of my home that I’ve worked hard for. I want to be surrounded by calm space.
Sort category by category, not room by room. KonMari recommends pulling together everything from one category into one pile. So if you’re doing clothes, go around the entire house and collect every single item o clothing you own. It’s not the same doing it all bit by bit as you need to see it together to truly realise what you have; I did it and it was a SHOCK. The categories are clothes, books, papers, komono (miscellaneous) and sentimental, in that order. This is because often we have items from the same category stored in several places around the house. You don’t want to sort a pile of clothes, think that’s out the way then come across your ironing pile downstairs. It’s best to get it all done at once.
Determine if an item ‘sparks joy’. Then you must pick up every item and decide whether this item ‘sparks joy’ for you. If not, it has to go. It’s ruthless and doesn’t allow for any ‘oh but I might need this extra pair of joggers at some point’, if you don’t love it, out it goes. I got rid of TEN bin bags of clothes and I can’t tell you how amazing it felt. My wardrobes felt lighter and I didn’t have to force the doors shut anymore!
There’s a lot, lot more to it and this is the quickest introduction ever but you really must read the book which you can find here; she even teaches you a proper method of folding knickers and pairing your socks!
I’m not even half way through yet, we’ve got stuck at papers because I’m waiting for P to do his, doing someone elses for them totally goes against the rules of KM otherwise half his clothes would be going straight out with Tuesday’s bin collection.
I’d love to hear your experiences of KM and if it worked for you!